I think we can all admit that the past few months have been a trying time for everyone, no matter what your political affiliations are. We have all being rocked and shaken to the core in one form or another. Looking about, I feel a lot of people have a “deer caught in the headlights” kind of life. A better explanation might be a Groundhog day kind of feel. We are all stuck in a rut and keep repeating the days over and over because we are exhausted and overwhelmed by all that is happening in the world. Here a few ways for you to recharge after the election and Valentine’s Day hangover.
Recharge after election and love hangover:
This might be the hardest thing to do for all of us, but l feel it is the most important. It’s important to accept the fact, no matter how much it pains you, that “Life goes on without you”. Sorry to break it to you, but indeed it does. You need to disconnect from the toxic news, the toxic people and definitely social media. It might be impossible to do all of it due to your job, but you can cut down considerably on time spent watching disheartening news. You can stop checking your Facebook page every other minute. You can stop posting your life update, and definitely take a break from the selfies. Do yourself a favor. Stop making yourself feel worse by constantly being reminded of how much fun your friends are having on vacation, their newly purchased car, house etc.
After disconnecting, make sure to reflect on both your past actions, your present, and especially your future actions. You’ve heard the saying that those who don’t learn from their past mistakes are doomed to repeat it. If you can look at how you got to where you’re at objectively, it becomes easier to make the necessary changes and assure a better outcome that is a lot better than your present situation. You might accomplish this by keeping a journal, either online or the old school way (affiliate link). Nothing helps like seeing things in black and white. For example, you might discover that your life isn’t so bad, but whenever you check a friend’s update and see that she is dining at yet another five star restaurant for the fifth time in a week while you’re brown bagging it, your happiness takes a nose dive and you get discouraged. This might be just the evidence you need to unfollow that person. Think about your relationship. Is it good or bad? Are you in it because you don’t want to be alone? Are you doing it for everyone else but you?
Take care of your well being. For you to make better judgement, you have to be in a good place physically, as well as mentally. Take time out to get to know yourself. Valentine’s Day especially, can be a hard one for singles. A lot of people can’t stand their own company which is really sad. You need to get to know yourself. Find out what a wonderful person you are and why others like to be around you. I got married at the age of 42 so l had plenty of time to be single in between relationships. I loved it, and even now, l still take time out to enjoy my own company. Read a book, get a massage, get your hair done. Listen to your favorite music while walking. Love and treasure yourself.
Now that you have cleared the cobwebs in your head, it’s a great time to reconnect. You don’t have to do it all at once either. I, for instance, used to post on Instagram everyday and enjoyed getting those likes. A high for sure. Nowadays, I post every 6 days, and you know what? My world hasn’t fallen apart 🙂 . If anything, the anxiety is eliminated. Think about friendships that were fractured during the election, or a love spat. Can you forgive? Are any of them salvageable? Can you reconnect, or should you let sleeping dogs lie? You may choose to keep on ignoring social media, or distance yourself a bit more than normal for your own well being. These are just a few suggestions to help you recharge after this election and love hangover.
How do you handle recharging after a disastrous event?